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[Error: unknown template qotd] "Get busy living or get busy dying." ~Red from Shawshank Redemption.

I once used this quote in a discussion once whereupon it was taken and completely bastardized until it's original meaning was, apparently, lost in translation.

I view this quote to mean that even in the face of the toughest adversity, you can either rise above it (get busy living...) or simply lay down and admit defeat (...or get busy dying.) Either way, you can't remain in the twilit lands of indecision.

There was one point in my life that was very dark and depressing. I had been suicidal for a time and this quote helped bring clarity. Though there were times I wanted to hang up, cash in, check out... I said screw it. I'm stronger than that and stubborn as well. And when I repeated this quote like a personal mantra, it helped pull me through.

So yeah. We can get busy living, or we can get busy dying... but either way, we have to do one or the other.

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Date: 2009-02-22 12:01 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile]
A friend of ours said that to vampy in her angst journal when she was deeply suicidal. It did not go down well.

I dunno, is it just me or is "or get busy dying" a really, REALLY touchy thing to say to someone who's suicidal? Some might take it as uplifting but others might not and some might even do exactly what it says.

In any other situation though, it's a good concept to have in one's life.

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Date: 2009-02-22 03:42 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile]
::shrugs:: Personally, it gave me drive. And it also set my stubborn determination to stay alive. Maybe that sounds odd to you, but then again, perhaps I'm an oddity in Life.

To me, when I was at that low of a place in my life, I wanted it all to end.


I had hit rock bottom. So really, what more did I have to be afraid of? I had already lost everything that I truly cared about... or so I thought... so really, I had nowhere to go but up.

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Date: 2009-02-22 07:55 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile]
Not odd at all, I was just saying it's one of those things that can turn out really well (like with you), but could also turn out really badly. I like it as a phrase, but some people tend to throw it at depressed people and it's a bit of a risky thing in that context.

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Date: 2009-02-23 06:39 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile]
Hmm, yeah. I wouldn't suggest going out and handing a suicidal person a knife, either, but I know of a couple of idiots who did. Long story for another time. ::rolls eyes::

I do understand that some people get very titchy over it. Personally, I tend to be fairly unruffled as an individual.

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Date: 2009-02-22 08:38 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile]
I think that's one of those phrases that really depends on timing, context, and audience for meaning.

Kind of like anything really worth knowing.

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Date: 2009-02-23 06:57 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile]
"Kind of like anything really worth knowing."

See, it's that type of thinking that makes me glad you're one I consider a friend. Because you're one of the few that actually *get* it.


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